Are You Ready for Your Expiration Date?

Recently, my wife and I returned home from a couple days with friends doing ministry, and I found something wrapped in butcher’s paper in the refrigerator. At first, I couldn’t tell what it was. Then, my wife unwrapped it, and a cold realization came over me because it was two of the juiciest, thickest, finely-cut steaks money could buy. My friend on the trip had purchased them for us to grill out when we returned. The problem was, we didn’t return because we got snowed in for almost two weeks.

So, I quickly rushed the precious tenderloins onto the operating table in the kitchen—known as the kitchen counter—and I contacted the doctor—otherwise known as Google—to see what could be done for the patients. Here’s what I read from Google: Fresh steaks can remain safe for up to three days in the refrigerator and up to a year or even longer in the freezer. Ours had been in the refrigerator for something like 20 days. In other words, I’d run out of time, so I had to bury the little suckers or throw them into the trash, whichever you want to call it. It felt like a burial to me. I even said a few words over them, something along the lines of “How I could have forgotten you?” What’s the worst thing that would have happened if I still ate them? Alas, after going through all the stages of grief over the next minute or so, I accepted the fact that I simply mismanaged the clock. That’s what happened. Time ran out on me. And so, the steaks were gone…forever.

Our Expiration Date

In this life here on earth, it’s a little bit like that. How many things do we take for granted? But much of life, including life itself, has an expiration day, and we have to think about it. Jesus said in John 9:4-5, “We must quickly carry out the tasks assigned to us by the one who sent us. The night is coming, and then no one can work. But while I am here in the world, I’m the light of the world.” Apparently, the very purposes that we were made for the tasks, you know, reaching those far from God, raising them up in Christ, and releasing them for ministry—all that has a sense of urgency attached to it or should. But nobody wants to talk about it.

Blaise Pascal (a French philosopher from the 1600s) had a great analogy for this—and if this doesn’t convict you, I’m not sure you can be convicted. It describes our lives like a giant party full of happy people, loud music, and dancing, during which a monster unexpectedly burst through the doors, grabs a random partygoer, mauls them in front of everybody, and drags their bloody corpse out of the room. (Are we having fun yet?) Everybody watches in horror. And after it’s over, they stare at each other in stunned silence for a few moments. But—check this out—then the band kicks back up. Everybody returns to their frivolity, putting the horrendous display they just saw out of their minds (or at least tries to). This horror is repeated every few moments until it becomes apparent that that monster is eventually coming for everyone in the room. Yet still, the party goes on.

That monster, Pascal said, is our impending death. I call it our expiration day. And our preferred way of dealing with it is just to stay distracted—you know, turn up the music at the party, increase the dancing, focus on people…anything but the monster coming into the room.

Our society, of course, is now elevated the art of distraction to epic levels. TVs are everywhere. Autoplay on Netflix tries to get me to watch one episode of the Office after another after another until I’ve burned through nine seasons. Your phone’s probably alerting you to at least 10 things happening right now that need your attention. You could be sitting in church, which is probably where you should be on a Sunday morning, and your phone’s buzzing off the hook. And I’ve seen people get up and pretend like they’re using the restroom. But really, they’re just checking their messages like it can’t possibly wait.

Social media apps, like Instagram and Twitter and TikTok, are literally built on the psychology of addiction. Maybe you didn’t know this, but they’re created to keep you scrolling & swiping, scrolling & swiping. Trevor Haines, writing for Harvard Science in the News, shows how social media app developers make big bucks on our addiction. By using algorithms to leverage our dopamine-driven reward circuitry in our heads, they stack the cards—and our brains—against us.

So, what am I suggesting that we do about it? Well, I’m suggesting we take a timeout, where we come face to face with the facts by realizing there’s an expiration date on the reconciliation offered through Christ’s rescue mission. It won’t always be there. It’s in this life and not in the next. “Behold now is the accepted time. Behold now is the day of salvation,” Paul said to the people at the church of Corinth and 2 Corinthians 6:2. He’s saying, I want to remind you of the immediacy, the urgency of receiving what the Lord wants to do for you now, not waiting. Because truly now’s the time for each of us to be saved, but not just born again eternally but to be saved from that which will hold us back presently.

The God of 2nd Chances is Also the God of Time’s Up

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In Genesis 6:3, God says, “My spirit will not always strive or wrestle with men.” Therefore, we know He will not pull on the strings of our heart or whisper in the ears of our spirit indefinitely. If you continually say no to God, there will come a point when He’ll let your decision stand and let you have your own life—a decision, by the way, Jesus would later call the blaspheming of the Holy Spirit (the unpardonable sin). In Mark 3:29, Jesus says, “Whoever blasphemes against the Holy Spirit never has forgiven, but is guilty of an eternal sin.” It becomes eternal because their expiration date comes up.

You don’t have to understand everything to believe in something. The Pharisees were trying to figure out God, and, in doing so, they missed God at every turn. So, again, you don’t have to understand everything to believe in something, but you do have to believe in order to understand that you’re being rescued.

Jesus came on a rescue mission. He gave His life on the cross in your place and mine, and you will not fully understand that until you repent of your sins and actually believe. Remember, God’s ways are higher than ours. (Isaiah 55:9). He created us, and He’s infinitely smarter than us. You’re never going to figure Him out, and you’re never going to see His ways because they’re spiritually discerned. You have to know Him first.

For now, know that our loving God—the God of second chances—is also the God of “time’s up.” There is a point where all chances at the rescue mission are cut off. Make sure you’ve made that all-important decision to follow Christ…before your expiration date.

(If you want to make that decision to follow Christ, or if you want to re-dedicate your life to Him, join us at The Summit in-person or online, and tell one of our leaders! They will give you valuable resources and welcome you (welcome you back) into the family of God.)

 

Until next time…Peace.

~Pastor Rob

Aka, P-Ro

The First Three Chapters

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

 

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

 

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

 

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.

 

Make It the Best Year

Everybody wants this to be the best year of their life—who wouldn’t?! But making this year better than the others means making some adjustments—changes. This 21-day devotional is the jump-start you need to do just that. Filled with scriptures, insight, and encouragement, Pastor Rob walks with you on this daily journey. Don’t wait until next New Year’s Day, make this the best year of your life…starting today!

The First Three Chapters

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.

 

The First Three Chapters

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

 

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

 

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

 

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.

 

Make It the Best Year Devotional 

Everybody wants this to be the best year of their life—who wouldn’t?! But making this year better than the others means making some adjustments—changes. This 21-day devotional is the jump-start you need to do just that. Filled with scriptures, insight, and encouragement, Pastor Rob walks with you on this daily journey. Don’t wait until next New Year’s Day, make this the best year of your life…starting today!

 

Exclusive Private Virtual Event – “Narcissism and Breaking Its Hold”

Narcissism is at an all-time high. And it’s not just because we’ve become a society obsessed with how we look and making sure we’re #1. It’s because we’ve put ourselves at the center of our lives instead of God. Join Pastor Rob in this 45-minute private event, where he will discuss the challenges facing society today and how we can make powerful changes in our lives to break the self-centered hold and embrace a God-centered life.

The First Three Chapters 

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

 

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

 

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

 

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.


Make It the Best Year Devotional

Everybody wants this to be the best year of their life—who wouldn’t?! But making this year better than the others means making some adjustments—changes. This 21-day devotional is the jump-start you need to do just that. Filled with scriptures, insight, and encouragement, Pastor Rob walks with you on this daily journey. Don’t wait until next New Year’s Day, make this the best year of your life…starting today!

 

Exclusive Private Virtual Event – “Narcissism and Breaking Its Hold”

Narcissism is at an all-time high. And it’s not just because we’ve become a society obsessed with how we look and making sure we’re #1. It’s because we’ve put ourselves at the center of our lives instead of God. Join Pastor Rob in this 45-minute private event, where he will discuss the challenges facing society today and how we can make powerful changes in our lives to break the self-centered hold and embrace a God-centered life.

 

Exclusive Live Webinar – “How to Help Your Teen Break Free of Social Media Addiction”

While it might not (yet) be considered a clinical addition, many in society can’t go 5 minutes without checking their phone to see how many likes they have for their latest post, or how many comments people have left. And our teens are especially susceptible. After all, they’ve been all but raised with a device in their hands. How do we help this next generation deal with the debilitating side effects social media can have on us? In this 90-minute webinar, Pastor Rob will discuss the issue and provide practical ways we can help our teens navigate these formative years in a positive way. There will also be a live Q & A session at the end. (A link to the recorded webinar will be provided after the live event.)

Overliked by Rob Singleton is a tome for such a time as this. Even though I work on television, I also make a living through social media. Coincidently, right before I started reading the pre-release copy, I had checked my "Likes'" and numbers on social media! How was I doing? Were my numbers growing? Declining? Did a few drop off?  
 
It's so easy to get our self-esteem and self-worth tied to those likes and numbers.  
 
Through Pastor Rob's book, we learn how frivolous and fake it can all be and ultimately, how it can lead to a miserable and unfulfilled life if left unchecked. The tools, scriptures, and "change of heart" takeaways that Pastor Rob provides at the end of each chapter help considerably shift the focus from there…to in here. He gently, but with statistics and examples, gives us a guide us to live a more authentic life.  
 
In the book, Pastor Rob says, "Honesty is what sets us up for authentic relationships," and isn't that what we really all want? 
 
As a woman over 40 in Hollywood, the expectations have never been higher. Overliked sites that, in one 12-month period, YouTube logged 169 billion views just for beauty-related content. Beauty is good… perfection is lethal. And don't I know it? I am on high-definition TV with glaring set lights, standing next to 20- to 30-year old young women daily; it's a test to stay solid and secure in your own skin.  
 
I was posting perfectly lit and curated pictures of my "Beautiful" (heavily filtered) life; people followed and viewed but scrolled right along. However, when I let down the curtain, turned off the filter, and decided to share my real-life sorrows and struggles with cancer, the comments, words, notes, and numbers flooded. People want to see my honesty and weaknesses because they can relate.  
 
Overliked shows us that when we pretend to be perfect, the only person we are hurting is ourselves.  
 
Pastor Rob's easy and relatable storytelling draws the reader in. We find that our weaknesses become our strengths to help us touch, encourage, and heal others, not just impress them.  
 
Thank you for this very needed and essential book that helps us realize that being real is the only way to have a true connection with our Lord and our friends and family. 
 
In Overliked, through story references of David, we learn the Lord encourages us all to ignore appearance and stature. "For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
 
This book is an important message for developing authenticity in our lives, which is far more critical than adding strangers, getting fake followers, and creating a heavily-filtered life experience. I promise you will really "LIKE" it.