A Matter of the Heart (1)

Rob Singleton A Matter of the Heart (part 1)

Years ago when reading the Old Testament I would get a little discouraged with all the law requirements—how in the world could people remember all that stuff let alone obey it?! Some of you are thinking, “Are you serious, Pastor Rob? Who can’t remember 10 simple commandments?”

Firstly, there weren’t just ’10 simple commandments’ there were actually 613 laws! Secondly, recent “man on the street” surveys have been done that show that the average person living in supposedly “Christian” America cannot name more than 2 of the 10 commandments! So it would seem most of us are not quite ready to pick the Bible category on the game show, ‘Jeopardy.’

All this makes me so thankful to have been born and called as a child of God after Christ came and paid for my sins on the Cross – a time period many refer to as, “the age of grace.” The Lord’s mercy and grace toward me is the greatest gift I’ve ever received – should be for every believer.

But, sadly, grace is not always understood let alone embraced by Christ followers today. In fact, when it comes to grace, the reactions of Christians run the full gambit. Some full-on abuse it. Others take it for granted. Still others don’t see the difference between grace and Law at all. Another group will embrace it at the moment of salvation but then spend their lives trying to earn it. All these responses are unbiblical responses to God’s great gift. Let’s talk about a couple of them.

First, there are those who basically spit in the face of God’s grace. I call them “The Grace Mace Crowd”. Paul talked about the grace mace group in Romans chapter 6 verses 1-2,

1 What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?”

Since this was said at the very beginning of chapter 6, we need to take a look at what was said about grace in the previous chapter.

19 For as by the one man’s disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one man’s obedience the many will be made righteous. 20 Now the law came in to increase the trespass, but where sin increased, grace abounded all the more, 21 so that, as sin reigned in death, grace also might reign through righteousness leading to eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”

What this is saying is that, because of Adam’s failure, sin continually enters the world. Like babies tragically born addicted to crack/cocaine because of the sin of their mothers, we have been condemned because of Adam’s sin and continue sinning as a result. However, the apostle Paul teaches us that the grace of God is greater than our sin! This should cause us to rejoice and to have great hope! But, sadly, it sometimes evokes a different response.

Which brings us up to speed with the beginning of chapter 6. Paul – as though anticipating the argument from the “Grace Mace” crowd – pens chapter 6 as a preemptive strike against cheap grace and easy believism.

1 What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?”

He’s saying, if all we want to do is grab the “Get out of Hell Free” card from God and then live the rest of our lives for the devil – we’ve cheapened grace and spit on God’s precious gift! No one whose heart was truly transformed would ever respond that way!

All too often, Christians try to fight sin by preaching, “No, no, no.” Paul’s method was to teach, “Know, know, know!” He said, “Know you have a new identification with Jesus Christ (vs. 3-5); know you have freedom through the cross (vs. 6-15); and know some things about Jesus’ cause (vs. 16-20).

Others respond to the “age of grace” by nullifying the Old Testament usually with dead giveaway phrases like, “We’re no longer under law, but under grace now.” While technically this is true, I find it of utmost importance to get people to clarify exactly what they mean by that. It’s vitally important because this line of reasoning can very easily lead to the same approach to God that the “Grace Macers” use.

How so, Pastor Rob?

Simple really. If we carry this idea that we are ‘no longer under law’ to extremes, what comes next?

  • The law was bad?
  • The law can be ignored?
  • I’ll obey the ones I want to and ignore the others?

Truth is, the law wasn’t bad – it had its purpose. And its purpose was very important. Once again, the apostle Paul verifies this in Romans 7:7,

“Well then, am I suggesting that the law of God is sinful? Of course not! In fact, it was the law that showed me my sin. I would never have known that coveting is wrong if the law had not said, “You must not covet.”

And again writing to the Galatians in Galatians 3:19,

“ 19 Why then the law? It was added because of transgressions, until the offspring should come to whom the promise had been made, and it was put in place through angels by an intermediary.”

So then, if the law is good, why did Jesus come to abolish it?

Who ever said He did?

Certainly not Jesus. No, the scripture people are thinking of (and butchering, I might add) when they make this misguided statement, is Matthew 5:17-18—though they almost never know where the scripture they’re “thinking of” is located when they misquote it. It’s a lot like the following misquote of scripture,

“Money is the root of all evil.”

Ever heard that one?

Sure you have. So have I. Only problem with it is, the Bible doesn’t say this…ANYWHERE! Here is the actual verse,

“For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.” 1 Timothy 6:10

Two things we should notice right away are the words, “the love, a, all kinds,” and evil(s)” So it’s not money itself. Money isn’t good or bad—it’s an inanimate object for goodness sake! It’s whether or not it is an idol to us that makes all the difference. Do you “love” money more than God? That’s a problem.

And what about the phrase, “all kinds?” Well, that certainly encompasses a lot, but it doesn’t encapsulate all evil. Another example of an attitude that covers quite a lot of sin territory is the sin of pride – it was this sin that preceded the downfall of Lucifer (Satan).

And finally, the word is not “evil,” but rather, “evil(s)” – plural. Again, pointing to many sinful outcomes but not all. Certainly the love of money is not the only trap the evil one can use to ensnare us.

So one can easily see how tiny changes in just one verse can alter the meaning quite a bit. With this in mind, let’s take a look at what Jesus actually said in Matthew 5:17-18,

17 “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them. 18 For truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished.” Matthew 5:17-18

What’s this? Not only did Jesus NOT say that He came to ‘abolish’ the law—He actually said the exact opposite—that He did “NOT come to abolish the law.” So how in the world do people get the notion that Jesus came to abolish the law from a scripture that says the exact opposite?

Simple, they view other scriptures that seem to say this and then forget to go back to Matthew 5:17-18 in order to reconcile (or not) what other seemingly contradictory texts seem to be saying. When it comes to Matthew 5, I find most are simply ‘vaguely aware of some passage in the Bible “somewhere” where Jesus supposedly said that He came to abolish the law.’

Do you see how dangerous this is?

So then, just how do we reconcile all this?

Simple, we keep reading. When Jesus said He did not come to abolish the law he immediately followed up with what He did come to do to the law, “; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.” He came to “fulfill it.”

And how did He do that?

Well, that’s for tomorrow’s post. I’m about to Carpal Tunnel out here and this post is already making a strong bid to be the longest I’ve ever written so…

Cya then!

The First Three Chapters

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

 

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

 

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

 

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.

 

Make It the Best Year

Everybody wants this to be the best year of their life—who wouldn’t?! But making this year better than the others means making some adjustments—changes. This 21-day devotional is the jump-start you need to do just that. Filled with scriptures, insight, and encouragement, Pastor Rob walks with you on this daily journey. Don’t wait until next New Year’s Day, make this the best year of your life…starting today!

The First Three Chapters

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.

 

The First Three Chapters

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

 

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

 

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

 

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.

 

Make It the Best Year Devotional 

Everybody wants this to be the best year of their life—who wouldn’t?! But making this year better than the others means making some adjustments—changes. This 21-day devotional is the jump-start you need to do just that. Filled with scriptures, insight, and encouragement, Pastor Rob walks with you on this daily journey. Don’t wait until next New Year’s Day, make this the best year of your life…starting today!

 

Exclusive Private Virtual Event – “Narcissism and Breaking Its Hold”

Narcissism is at an all-time high. And it’s not just because we’ve become a society obsessed with how we look and making sure we’re #1. It’s because we’ve put ourselves at the center of our lives instead of God. Join Pastor Rob in this 45-minute private event, where he will discuss the challenges facing society today and how we can make powerful changes in our lives to break the self-centered hold and embrace a God-centered life.

The First Three Chapters 

Why wait until the book is released to start reading it? With your pre-order, you will receive the first three chapters immediately, so you can begin reading it right away. Pastor Rob sets lays the groundwork for all that he will be sharing, and you will get to start on his end-of-chapter “Change of Heart” exercises.

 

Out of Egypt Devotional

In this 6-day devotional, Pastor Rob will walk you through Scripture, much like the Israelites following God out of Egypt, and show you that God uses the ordinary to do the extraordinary and how to discern the truth over all the noise. You can also join the private Out of Egypt Facebook Group where you can connect with Pastor Rob and others in a supportive and encouraging environment.

 

Social Media First Aid Kit

Every home, office, store, church, and public gathering place has a first aid kit. Something to help patch up those bumps and scrapes we get from time to time. So it seems only appropriate that we treat the bumps and scrapes we sometimes get from social media. In Pastor Rob’s Social Media First Aid Kit, you will find valuable tools to not only treat the wound but to also prevent the wounds from coming in the first place.

 

Included in the kit you’ll find:

  • 5 Bible Verses to Look at Before Engaging Social Media Today – Get the Scriptural foundation you need before checking in with your social media platforms.
  • 3 Decisions to Make TODAY to Protect Your Mental Health When Engaging with Social Media – Having a more positive experience with your social media platforms can be as easy as 1-2-3. These three simple tips, when implemented consistently, will help keep social media in its place…and move you closer to God.
  • The Age of Narcissism – Narcissism, a personality trait that we all possess to a certain degree, has become a major problem. Not just because we’re obsessed with selfies and making sure we look—or at least appear¬¬ to look—good, happy, successful. But because the focus is on self and not God. Take this seven-day journey to putting God—and not you—at the center of your life.


Make It the Best Year Devotional

Everybody wants this to be the best year of their life—who wouldn’t?! But making this year better than the others means making some adjustments—changes. This 21-day devotional is the jump-start you need to do just that. Filled with scriptures, insight, and encouragement, Pastor Rob walks with you on this daily journey. Don’t wait until next New Year’s Day, make this the best year of your life…starting today!

 

Exclusive Private Virtual Event – “Narcissism and Breaking Its Hold”

Narcissism is at an all-time high. And it’s not just because we’ve become a society obsessed with how we look and making sure we’re #1. It’s because we’ve put ourselves at the center of our lives instead of God. Join Pastor Rob in this 45-minute private event, where he will discuss the challenges facing society today and how we can make powerful changes in our lives to break the self-centered hold and embrace a God-centered life.

 

Exclusive Live Webinar – “How to Help Your Teen Break Free of Social Media Addiction”

While it might not (yet) be considered a clinical addition, many in society can’t go 5 minutes without checking their phone to see how many likes they have for their latest post, or how many comments people have left. And our teens are especially susceptible. After all, they’ve been all but raised with a device in their hands. How do we help this next generation deal with the debilitating side effects social media can have on us? In this 90-minute webinar, Pastor Rob will discuss the issue and provide practical ways we can help our teens navigate these formative years in a positive way. There will also be a live Q & A session at the end. (A link to the recorded webinar will be provided after the live event.)

Overliked by Rob Singleton is a tome for such a time as this. Even though I work on television, I also make a living through social media. Coincidently, right before I started reading the pre-release copy, I had checked my "Likes'" and numbers on social media! How was I doing? Were my numbers growing? Declining? Did a few drop off?  
 
It's so easy to get our self-esteem and self-worth tied to those likes and numbers.  
 
Through Pastor Rob's book, we learn how frivolous and fake it can all be and ultimately, how it can lead to a miserable and unfulfilled life if left unchecked. The tools, scriptures, and "change of heart" takeaways that Pastor Rob provides at the end of each chapter help considerably shift the focus from there…to in here. He gently, but with statistics and examples, gives us a guide us to live a more authentic life.  
 
In the book, Pastor Rob says, "Honesty is what sets us up for authentic relationships," and isn't that what we really all want? 
 
As a woman over 40 in Hollywood, the expectations have never been higher. Overliked sites that, in one 12-month period, YouTube logged 169 billion views just for beauty-related content. Beauty is good… perfection is lethal. And don't I know it? I am on high-definition TV with glaring set lights, standing next to 20- to 30-year old young women daily; it's a test to stay solid and secure in your own skin.  
 
I was posting perfectly lit and curated pictures of my "Beautiful" (heavily filtered) life; people followed and viewed but scrolled right along. However, when I let down the curtain, turned off the filter, and decided to share my real-life sorrows and struggles with cancer, the comments, words, notes, and numbers flooded. People want to see my honesty and weaknesses because they can relate.  
 
Overliked shows us that when we pretend to be perfect, the only person we are hurting is ourselves.  
 
Pastor Rob's easy and relatable storytelling draws the reader in. We find that our weaknesses become our strengths to help us touch, encourage, and heal others, not just impress them.  
 
Thank you for this very needed and essential book that helps us realize that being real is the only way to have a true connection with our Lord and our friends and family. 
 
In Overliked, through story references of David, we learn the Lord encourages us all to ignore appearance and stature. "For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7)
 
This book is an important message for developing authenticity in our lives, which is far more critical than adding strangers, getting fake followers, and creating a heavily-filtered life experience. I promise you will really "LIKE" it.