On Wednesday, I explained that God made marriage a beautiful thing and that He wants you to enjoy it. There are three types of fun every married couple must enjoy! The first is face to face fun. What all does this entail? Think back to your dating days when all you wanted to do was be with your now spouse. You’d spend as much time as you could in each other’s company, and you’d talk for hours at a time! You may find that marriage makes this kind of relationship difficult. Jobs, children, and chores can keep you from continuing to date each other. Carving out time to be with just each other is crucial. If you can have date nights after the kids have gone to bed, or get a babysitter and have a night out, it’ll go a long way in the romance department!
The second type of fun you need to have with your spouse is side to side fun (Song of Solomon 7:11). Everyone has interests and hobbies, and you may be carving out time for this each week. But if you and your spouse are perusing everything separately rather than together, you’re missing out. Find ways to enjoy each other’s hobbies (a great way to support your spouse) or to discover a new one together (a great way to keep things romantic).
The third and final type of fun I want to look at here is naked, not afraid (ashamed) fun. Physical intimacy with your spouse is just as important, especially to men, as other aspects of marriage. Read though Proverbs 5:18-19 to get a little more insight on intimacy. Anything in the Bible about marriage is worth applying to your marriage. And remember, if the grass looks greener somewhere else, it’s time to water your own yard!
While I’ve just pointed out the importance of your marriage, I want to point out something even more important—eternity! In everything you do in life, have an eternal mindset. This means honoring God here on earth and helping others find Him. Preparing your family for all of eternity in heaven is more important than preparing them for their last days on earth. And while having a strong marriage is a part of honoring God, you have to remember why your marriage is important and remember that you’re a team doing work for God.