How do you seek God? You already know that it’s important, that it’s a top priority. But how do you actually do this? You and your spouse can seek God together as you pray together every day. Prayer changes things! Take a look at 2 Chronicles 7:14 (NIV): “if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” Did you catch that? God said He’ll hear you from heaven!
One of the most difficult things about marriage is how your feelings change. You might adore or idolize certain things at the beginning of marriage and demonize them later! Habits and mannerism can get annoying. This is just one of countless examples of how things change in marriage, but it’s significant. If you find yourself struggling in your marriage—falling out of love, getting annoyed and frustrated, etc.—take a step back! To reconstruct a rocky marriage, you have to deconstruct it first. This will help you clearly see what’s wrong.
According to a Family Life Survey, fewer than 8% of Christian couples pray together regularly. Of those couples that do, fewer than 1% divorce. Prayer and Bible reading are foundational to a strong relationship. Matthew 6:33 says, “But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well” (NIV). When you’re seeking the Kingdom rather than the things of the world, everything will orbit around God. Everything else will fall into place once you change your orbit!
This week, focus on prayer and reading the Word. Remember—prayer is as simple as talking to a friend. And if you haven’t been able to sit down and pray with your spouse, you can write out prayers! Send your spouse a text with a prayer and words of encouragement. This shouldn’t take the place of sitting down together, but it helps keep you going when life gets busy! Be encouraged that no matter where you’re at in your relationship, it’s not too late to change your orbit. The last day (not the first day) of your marriage should actually be the best day of your marriage! Think about where you start vs. where you want to finish. You want your marriage to be better on its last day than the first!